i loved my boyfriend so much but now his change in behavior is breaking my heart.nwe’ve been friends for 3 years which makes this extra hard on menwe were dating other people until last may 2009nwe live 2-3 hours apart but i am already signed up for an important new job paying close to 125k and i have some friends and contacts there.ni will get my own apartment no matter what.nnSince October I started to notice the slightest change in his attention and affection towards me.nBut I rationalized it. I excused it. He used to make sure to contact me a lot and be sweet and stay in touch. but even though we’ve had a lot of fun and spent time together and his family loves me and he says we’re exclusive, i have noticed a shift in his behavior.nnnOur conversations a week ago and then what i discovered on his iphone this weekend have finally been the last strawsnnA week ago i told him his brother has a new gilfriend (im good friends with his bro)nhe was tipsy but his words still upset me. he replied he hoped his brother didnt fall in the ‘monogamy ditch’ (this is a guy who has spent most of the last 3 years of our friendship telling me he wants kids and marriage)nnhe then ended up making some joke about a show he saw called millionaire matchmaker where old rich guys want 22 year old. he said but he understands since sex with 22 year olds is best.n(he is 36 and im 33)nnthat was 1 week agonnthis weekend seemed greatntogether for 3 long days … snowed in and had great timennbut then he asked me to check the weather on his iphoneni dont know how to use it well and i ended up clicking mail icon.nit instantly showed an email titled “sweet girl” in the trash foldersnni then hurridly read about 10 emails between him and some girl who he told has great STEMS for legs, 5′11/ a hot paralegal he met on craigslist who is………. 22nyes 22 just like the age in his ‘joke’ about sex.nni just dont UNDERSTAND what makes a guy go from being a great friend for years to a fun charming boyfriend/potential husband to a total raging mean cheaternnnwhy would he want me to hate him ? how to handle it ?ntell him i know and dump him ?nor be class cool and mysterious and just fade out on him like im bored?n:(nnalso he has a great job, so hes not jealous of me making money soon.nnim so distraught.nnbecause i loved and adored him. part of me still loves him too.
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