I am noticing a pattern in my mate. It SEEMS to me that love is a place of protection for him. For instance, I notice that when I am reacting to my mate’s actions, he feels less threatened in a deeper sense then when I have no reaction to his unconciscious actions. When I am content where I am and I do not feel hurt, angry, outwardly happy or sad by his actions, he seems like he feels threatened that I do not NEED him anymore. This causes him to ask me “do you need me for anything right now?” etc etc. If I am sad and he asks me why and it has anything to do with him, he feels safe and protected- “loved”.nIf I do not NEED him but I am not being reactive to him (being mean, being happy, etc), then he feels……insecure……nIs this love from security to any degree? nis this common?nHow do I not FEED this type of security in order to build a more healthier and true love?
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