What if you don’t find yourself attractive and what resent what others see in you?nnI have a real problem with how I look and the way people see me because of it. Most aren’t capable of understanding how I feel because they figure that men don’t care how they look as long as some woman approves of them or they fit some traditional stereotype of masculinity.nnI am 6′3″, about 260 lbs, and bald (not by choice). The only women I have ever attracted are the type that complain about a lack of “real men” in the world, who want some big burly hairy-chested type to ravage them in bed and “protect” them when out in public. They believe that men should be men, and women should be women (that is, as long as she benefits from such stereotyping).nnWhile I understand how a woman could be attracted by masculine men, I think it’s stupid for them to assume that all men should behave the same way. I also think it’s pretty stupid that they still measure a man by outdated and irrelevant skills such as physical strength, traditional values, etc. To me, being seen as a “real man” is not a compliment, and is something I want to stay far away from.nnObviously, I cannot change my height. I have done everything other than get a hairpiece to fix my hair, so I’m going to be bald, at least when indoors. While I obviously can lose a fair amount of weight, I fear that I will still look like a big guy due to my broad shoulders and my height. I’m not freakish-looking, but I’m also taller than about 9 out of 10 people I encounter, maybe more.nnWhat can I do? And please don’t tell me to “learn to love yourself” or sell me on the idea that looks don’t matter, or only matter to “the wrong kind of girl”.
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